As an escort, I often encounter men who express concern, saying, “I’m sorry, but I won’t last long.” Many believe there is little they can do to delay orgasm and ejaculation. Fortunately, there are effective strategies to increase the duration of sexual encounters. In this article I share a few tips how to extend duration during sexual activity.

1. Embrace foreplay

Premature ejaculation often occurs when intense arousal is met with strong stimuli from the outset, leading quickly to peak excitement. Next time, consider taking it slow. Begin with sensual foreplay, taking your time to undress one another. Enjoy a leisurely, affectionate foreplay session; this will prolong intimacy and help you avoid becoming overly excited too quickly.

2. Explore different types of sexual activity

Men sometimes have too much attention for penetrative sex. This can lead to a premature end. Remember, penetration is just one aspect of sexual experience. There’s so much more to explore! Consider various forms of intimacy. Start with light kissing, mutual masturbation, intimate tantra massage, or oral sex as a smooth transition between foreplay and penetrative intercourse.

3. Slow down

If you sense that you are reaching climax, reduce the tempo and intensity. Move more deliberately, don’t go as deep, or ask your partner to adopt a gentler approach during oral, manual stimulation, or riding.

4. Take breaks

Don’t hesitate to pause during sexual activity if it becomes too intense. Take a moment to lie down, cuddle, and kiss. Allow yourself to rest and cool down. If comfortable, you can even remain inside your partner without movement, sharing an intimate moment of stillness.

5. Alternate roles

When engaging in oral sex or manual stimulation, consider taking turns rather than opting for positions like 69. This approach allows for brief pauses between turns, reducing the chance of overwhelming stimulation.

6. Calm your mind and breathe

In moments of intense pleasure, it’s important to calm your mind. Mental arousal plays a significant role in sexual excitement and is often what leads men to finish “too quickly.” When you experience heightened arousal, avoid intensifying it with distracting fantasies. Instead, close your eyes, focus on calming your thoughts, and take deep breaths. You may be surprised by how much a calm breath can help you regain control. Shift your attention away from your genitals and focus on other areas of your body to facilitate cooling down.

7. Save the most exciting position for last

If a specific position or activity is particularly pleasurable for you (or tends to make you “lose control”), consider saving it until the end. Once you’ve engaged in all desired activities and feel ready to climax, transition to your most stimulating position and fully embrace the experience. At this point, you can let go of control and allow yourself to reach orgasm.

Orgasm after edging

One of the most rewarding aspects of edging (alternating between arousal and restraint) is that it often leads to an incredibly intense orgasm. The effort invested in this technique is well worth it for the heightened pleasure at the end. You can learn more about edging in my next posts.

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If you are interested in exploring these techniques with a professional escort, feel free to familiarize yourself with my services and book a meeting. I am confident you will appreciate the experience of edging and intimacy with me.